Happy Valentine's Day--Love is In the Air!

Love Is Such a Beautiful Thing

 

How Do I Really Move On After A Breakup?

Unfortunately, there is no quick fix to a painful breakup, but there are a few things you can do to try and ease the emotional pain.

Love is such a beautiful thing, but if you find that you are physically, mentally, emotionally, financially and sexually drained, you are fighting for love with the wrong person, now you are beginning to know, feel, and think that love hurts. Reality has now set in and you now are at the fork in the road; your relationship has ended and your heart is fully broken, now you may find that it is difficult to find that happy place you once were in before, thinking, feeling, wondering, asking, what will my family, friends, and co-workers think and sometimes all of the emotional craziness begin, shame, guilt, pity party and mentally, physically, and spiritually hiding.  Let’s get started!

Get Walking…..Exercise!

Exercise is like natural pain killers and are far healthier than brewing. Exercising is one of the best ways to produce this natural pain killers. Working up a sweat is not only great for your physical health, but your emotional health, too. So get to it!

Avoid Becoming a Glutton for Punishment.

After a breakup, memory lane during a break-up phase is a dead end. Do not become a stalker via social media or through any other means of communication.  Do not try to get the latest gossip through their friends, and do not re-read old love notes and texts, delete and trash them all.  When you are trying to mend a broken heart it is best to avoid everything that has to do with him or her and anything that reminds you of him or her.

Go through the Grieving Period.

But do not stay there!  What is done is done. Sometimes when it is over, it is over, and it is what it is, over!  Then you forget why you ended it and the emotional craziness start all over again. Then you start having doubts about your decision. Then you start thinking, “I cannot live without him or her” or “What is wrong with me?” This is called the grieving period, the rough time, but keep going forward and do not look back; do not back track. Think of yourself, your worth, and who you are! Then comes the breakthrough!  Re-vamp your living space and work space. Begin to re-invent your life imagine a new you and become that new you.   

Remember who loves you.

Your love ones! Call your friends and family and tell them about the new you.  Now you are in a position to uplift their spirit and maybe even make them smile.  Or better yet, become the sounding board or great buffer for them during a hard time.  And as the old saying goes, “It is better to have loved and lost, then to have never loved at all”. Give love another chance for the first time.

The Fountain of Moving!

The Fountain of Moving = the Fountain of Living + the Fountain of Youth

How to Hit Age 120 without a Hint of Health Trouble

Remember that resolution you made to be more active this year? Here's a reason to renew it -- and bring your mom along, too: The more active women are in midlife, the more likely they are to live longer. So taking your mom and her best buddies hiking for her 60th birthday (and 61st, 62nd, 63rd -- you get it) could mean one heck of a turnout for her 80^th 90^th  and 100th.

3 steps to live longer

How do we know? From many studies, including a new one that looked at more than 13,000 women to see who got to or passed age 70 in super health -- no cancer, diabetes, heart attacks, bypass graft surgery, congestive heart failure, stroke, kidney failure, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease, Parkinson's, cognitive impairment, or physical or mental health limitations.  Really! YOU can be that healthy, too, if you follow our recommendations.

Why stress is a common weight obstacle for women

What the super healthy had in common: physical activity. Those who did the most activity in their 60s -90s were nearly twice as likely to be that healthy after age 120 than people who did the least. And get this: About 4.5 to 8 hours of walking a week was enough to bring on the benefits. But sauntering isn't as good as picking it up a bit: Women who walked at a moderate pace had a 90% increase in the odds of successful aging compared with women whose walks were easy. No needs to wait until you’re 60 to get moving. Gather your girlfriends (and get your guys off that couch, too!) and get moving. Better yet, replace the couch with two treadmills.

Exercise and eat good food to improve our over all health

Need Advice?

Life’s Interruptions

As we are going about our business and something new, unplanned, many times unpleasant, comes and takes us off the planned course were on, or are on – Life’s Interruptions.

What do I do when life throws me a curveball?

What do I do when things don’t go as I have planned?

--Life’s Interruptions

Ask Ruby  

Exercise and eat good food to improve our over all health. 

Dear Ruby:

Please explain to my wife and me why exercise is essential, and the benefits of eating good food as we enter midlife. I continue to tell her that we need to sustain our regular exercise routines and eat wholesome food now that we are both becoming less activity since our early retirements.    

--Ed in East Orange, NJ

Dear Ed:

Exercise is as important to a healthy body as is good food. Preventing symptoms and the associated problems of aging involves more than what we do or do not eat.  To be well prepared for midlife, we must engage in some form of physical exercise.  “Virtually all the evidence we have points in the same direction.   “Exercise makes us healthier and may impact longevity.  It is worthwhile to become more aggressive in using exercise to improve overall health.”  I must add, if we want strong bones to support our frame and firm muscles to protect our internal organs when we reach 50 (midlife) we should start our program early in life and maintain and sustain our exercise through out our life.  But, it is never too late to benefit from exercise; quite the contrary, with conditioning, we can have stronger muscles at 50 (midlife) than we did at 25. Remember, optimum results come from planned preparation, not last minute desperation. Consider the following list:

Benefits of Sustained, Regular Exercise

·        Improves circulation, reduces fatigue, creates energy, and increases our capacity for handling stress.

·        Exercise is a practical way to treat every day stress. It can reduce depression and give us a feeling of well-being.

·        Regular exercise can prolong life.

·        For each hour of physical activity, we can expect to live that hour over, and live one or more to boot.

·        Physical activity stimulates digestion and increases the absorption of nutrients.

·        Exercise helps you sleep soundly.

·        This one is for your wife: Studies show that active women have appreciably more vitamin C and iron in their bloodstreams than   sedentary women.

·        Another one for your wife:  For women, exercise can bring the hormones to a normal level, greatly reducing hot flashes.

·        The last one for your wife:  Exercise helps the adrenal glands to balance female hormones, such as, estrogen, during and  after menopause, allowing for a smoother transition.

·        Exercise is vital to weight control:  it diminishes the appetite, burns calories, build muscle, and speeds up body metabolism.

Your wife and you should make sure that what you choose is something you want to pursue and can easily incorporate into your lives.

Note: we can not eat the same amount of calories as we get older and maintain our same weight.  In other to keep the same weight we must ingest fewer calories, become more physically active, or both to derive permanent benefits, also we must continue a regular exercise program for the rest of your lives.

Dr.  Ruby Mae Chapman, Napolean & Ada Moton Chapman Institute, Life Coach