Why Am I Still Single?
Dear Ruby,
Why am I still single?
I am smart, educated, attractive and outgoing, what am I missing?
Renee from Richmond
Dear Renee:
Jean Twenge is a psychology professor at San Diego State University and author of Generation Me: Why Today's Young Americans Are More Confident, Assertive, Entitled—and More Miserable—Than Ever Before (Free Press, 2007) and co-author of the upcoming Narcissism Epidemic with W. Keith Campbell.
Based on recent research she has conducted to learn about current attitudes toward relationships, "There is in fact a massive cultural shift at work here." She says the number of women who are romantically uninvolved is a result of one major factor: our culture tells us we don't need relationships. Practice, changing your mind about relationships, invite in the idea of friendship, we all need a friend. Also I would like to add, we must learn to be open to the fact that our friend have feelings too, and opening ourselves to his suggestions, comments and views we may not agree with, leaves room for taking off the boss(y) hat, and sometimes just allows us to wear the friend and companion hat.
